Elderly Define Love as Effort

Why this is here: A 96-year-old woman, while holding her dog, succinctly advised viewers to “look after yourself” and “don’t abuse yourself.”

William Rossy interviewed people in their 70s, 80s, and 90s—across 35 countries—about love and life lessons. Rossy shares their responses on his YouTube channel, which has over one million subscribers.

One woman in her 80s described love as a commitment needing consistent work and “nourishment,” not a sudden feeling. Her friend added that love develops over time, rarely happening at first sight.

Another woman, married to her third husband, noted the importance of a “generous baggage allowance” in relationships, acknowledging differing perspectives require tolerance. A man married for 67 years emphasized compromise as essential, happily yielding to his wife's preferences. Many interviewees also reflected on regrets, with one woman acknowledging a past desire for children she felt unsuited to fulfill.

Rossy also asked about advice for younger generations, receiving counsel to communicate openly and prioritize self-care. The interviews reveal wisdom gained through decades of experience, though one woman playfully admitted a reluctance to offer advice at all. The project continues as Rossy seeks further insights.